近日，《中国青年报》上的一篇文章引发了网络的轩然大波一位名叫林爻的家长表示，女儿开学才一个月，学校要求的整齐划一，就摧毁了自己苦心坚持了6年的“做自己”的教育观。这位家长无比担忧，“6年后我将收获怎样一个孩子？”一“文”激起千层浪，关于“学校该怎么教孩子”的话题一下成为了微博上最受关注的热点。

recently,[The China youth daily]In an article sparked a network of a man named Lin Yao parents said,The daughter only a month,The school uniform requirements,It destroyed her best to the six years"Do oneself"Of education.The parents very concern,"Six years later I will harvest how a child?"a"wen"Arouses thousand layer wave,about"School how to teach children"The topic of the became the micro bo most concern hot spot.

家长无奈： Parents but:

　　6年的学前教育 Six years of preschool education

　　被一个月的学校教育“颠覆”了 Be a month of school education"subversion"the

　　花了6年时间，家长林爻努力把自己的女儿培养成“她自己”，告诉她，每个人都是“独一无二”的，既不妄自菲薄，也不妄自尊大。可女儿刚进小学一个月，林爻就发现，自己的理念“受到了根本性的挑战”。从本子、笔、文具袋、到舞蹈鞋，老师都作出了详细的规定；为适应教学进度，林爻“三分教七分等”的教育观也无奈暂停，不得不加快教导孩子写字的脚步；老师的短信虽然常有，但似乎并不旨在沟通，而让林爻更感到了“命令”没有“商讨”，只有“服从”；为了让女儿在“热爱集体”一栏获得更多“小红旗”，林爻也只能违背最初的坚持，给班里买了绿色植物、餐巾纸……“如此的整齐划一，我的女儿怎么可能不像流水线上的产品？再过一个6年，我会收获一个怎么样的孩子？”写到最后，作者感到了“恐惧”。

Spent six years,Parents Yao Lin to his own daughter culture into"she",Tell her,Everyone is"unique"of,Neither improperly belittles oneself,Also stuffy.But her daughter just entered primary school a month,Yao Lin found,Own idea"By the fundamental challenge".From the book/pen/Stationery bags/To WuDaoXie,The teacher made detailed provisions;In order to adapt to the teaching schedule,Yao Lin"Three points to teach seven classification"The education also helpless pause,Have to speed up the steps of writing teaching children;The teacher's message although often,But doesn't seem to communication,And let the Yao Lin feel more"command"no"To discuss",only"obey";In order to let the daughter in"Love the collective"A bar to get more"Small red flag",Lin Yao also can violate the original insist on,In the class to buy the green plants/napkins……"So neat and uniform,My daughter how may not like the assembly line product?Another six years,I'll reap an how children?"Wrote last,The author felt the"fear".

网友激辩： Net friend excitation debate:

　　95%的家长赞同打造孩子个性 95% of the parents agree with make child's personality

　　这篇文章的网络反响非常大，几天之内，30多万网友加入讨论。截至昨晚5点，已有2万5千多人参与了一项名为“你认为该怎么教孩子”的调查，其中约95%的人赞同“家长应坚持己见，教孩子不盲从学校‘潜规则"；只有5%的人认为“家长应理解学校，帮孩子适应学校生存规则”。

This article network echo is very large,Within a few days,More than 30 net friend join the discussion.By the 5 o 'clock last night,More than 25000 people involved in a name"Do you think how to teach children"investigation,Roughly 95% of people agree with"Parents should insist on your opinion,Teach children should not blindly follow the school‘Latent rules";Only 5% of the people think"Parents should understand the school,Help children to adapt to the school survival rule".

　　吴女士是南京某咨询公司一名员工，她是前一观点的忠实拥护者，“学会学习的前提是要先学会做人，我希望我的女儿是一个独立的生命个体，对这个世界，她应有自己独特的认知。”由于女儿十分活泼好动，在要求“认真听讲、不开小差”的课堂上，少不了受到老师的批评。对此，吴女士不以为然，“我并不十分赞同老师的观点，更不想女儿被‘模式化’。”

Ms wu is a consulting company in nanjing an employee,She is a former a view of the fan,"Learning to learn is the premise of must first learn to behave,I hope my daughter is an independent individual life,To the world,She should have its own unique cognitive."Since my daughter is very active,When asked"Seriously listened to the lecture/Don't desert"class,Without the teacher criticized.this,Ms wu to disagree,"I don't quite agree with the teacher's point of view,Daughter is more don't want to‘modeled’."

　　吴女士认为，有个性不是坏事，女儿只需慢慢地学会“在合适的时间做合适的表达”。

Ms wu think,A personality is not bad,Daughter just slowly to learn"At the appropriate time to do the right expression".

　　但钱薇（化名）的态度截然相反，虽然儿子到现在为止一直在家接受教育，但钱薇还是认为，不懂得适应学校环境，对孩子来说是危险的。钱薇坦言，虽然学校确实可能在某些方面限制了孩子的个性，但她强调，自己做出让孩子“在家上学”的决定，并不是想让他“逃避”，只是为了给他提供更自由、更有针对性的教学内容。从一年级到如今的三年级，儿子一直以自学为主，针对一些需要点拨的问题，父母再请来家庭教师对他进行专门辅导。

But QianWei(alias)Attitude completely opposite,Although son so far have been at home to accept education,But QianWei still think,Do not know how to adapt to the school environment,It is dangerous for children.QianWei said,Although the school really may in some respects limit the child's personality,But she stressed,Make yourself let the children"At home to go to school"decision,And is not to want to let him"escape",Just to to offer him more freedom/A more targeted teaching content.From grade one to grade 3 now,Son has been given priority to with self-study,In view of some need to show how problems,Parents, please again family teachers to special guidance.

　　但每学期，钱薇总会挑两周左右的时间，让儿子回到学校课堂学习，严格遵从学校的一切安排。“我要知道他能否适应学校。”钱薇认为，每个人都是社会人，孩子再有个性，也不能让他和社会脱节，不然会“很危险”。“如果孩子在学校表现出任何不适应，都是我家庭教育的失败。”截至目前，钱薇对自己的教育结果很满意：在学校期间，儿子表现很优秀。钱薇觉得，自己做到了家庭教育和学校教育的良好衔接。

But each semester,QianWei always carry around two weeks time,Let the son back to school classroom learning,Strictly follow the school of all the arrangements."I want to know if he can adapt to the school."QianWei think,Everyone is a social man,Children have personality,Also can't let him and social disrupted,Or you will"It is dangerous to"."If a child in the school performance as to why don't,Are my family education failure."So far,QianWei to own education the result is satisfied:In school period,Son's performance is very good.QianWei think,Do your family education and school education good cohesion.

专家点评： Expert comments:

　　关键是让孩子适应什么样的环境 The key is to let the children what kind of environment

　　在南师大儿童发展与教育研究中心的专家看来，网络上的两种观点都没错孩子必须学会适应环境，但关键在于，适应什么样的环境。“适应不等于盲从，而是应该带着敏感和警觉。”专家指出，这位写文章的家长并不仅仅是在抱怨，而是表达了一种担忧焦虑：学校的做法到底是为了儿童服务，还是为了自己管理的方便？这位家长的反思给了其他家长、学校、甚至整个社会一种警醒教育的目的是让孩子有足够的分析能力，因此，家长除了教孩子学会适应，还要教他们学会反思和改造。

In NaShiDa children development and education research center of experts looks,The network two ideas are right children must learn to adapt to the environment,But the key lies in,Adapt to what kind of environment."To adapt to the not equal to follow blindly,But should bring a sensitive and alert."Experts point out that,The writing of parents not only is complaining,But expressed concern anxiety:What is the practice of school for children's service,Or for their management convenient?The parents' reflection to the other parents/The school/And even the society as a whole a warning education purpose is to let the children have enough analysis ability,therefore,Parents in addition to teach children to learn to adapt to,Will teach them to reflect on and transformation.

　　但他同时指出，在这个矛盾中，学校并不是“始作俑者”。学校被整个社会大环境牵引着，被家长、管理者和舆论压制着，左右为难。因此，家长也要学会给学校“松绑”，以宽容的态度与学校进行沟通、探讨。

But he also pointed out,In this contradiction,The school is not"creation".School was the whole social environment with traction,Are parents/Managers and public opinion held down,dilemma.therefore,Parents also have to learn how to give the school"relax",With tolerant attitude and school for communication/To explore.

　　同时，面对争议，学校也无需恐惧，反而应给予家长更多表达意见的渠道，通过“家长委员会”等各种形式，将家长的力量和智慧汇集在一起，倡导多元思维，真正做到“开放式办学”。

At the same time,In the face of the dispute,The school also need not fear,But should give parents more channels of expression,Through the"Parents committee", etc various forms,Parents will be the strength and wisdom together,Advocating pluralistic thinking,really"Open education".

　　现代快报记者 王颖菲

Modern express WangYingFei reporters