以前人们夸一个孩子，经常说“家教好”，现在这个评价用得越来越少了。家长们说得更多的是孩子“奥数拿过冠军”、“外语口语是多少等级”。在评价孩子的时候，我们越来越多地使用社会人格的成功标准，却渐渐忽略了自然人格的流露。

People used to boast a child,Often say"Tutor good",Now the evaluation use less and less.Parents say more about the child"Aoshu champion"/"How much is the oral English level".In the evaluation of a child,More and more, we use the success of social personality standard,But gradually neglected reveal of natural personality.

　　可我依然很喜欢“家教”这个词，因为它是一种耳濡目染，是一种长期的人格养成。对中国人而言，家庭教育是一个人价值观形成的基地。孔子提出一个人的学习要分为几个阶段：第一阶段“入则孝，出则悌”，就是讲家庭教育；第二阶段是“谨而信，泛爱众，而亲仁”，说的是社会教育；第三阶段是“行有余力，则以学文”，就是说你前两个阶段都完成了的话，就可以去学习文献知识了。我们现在是反过来了，在学校接受了很多年教育之后再去接受社会教育，而家庭教育呢？往往被我们牺牲掉了。

But I still like"tutor"The word,Because it is a are exposed to,It is a kind of long-term personality form.For Chinese people,Family education is a base of values.Confucius put forward a person study divided into several stages:The first stage"Into the filial piety,The relationships between adults is",Is to speak the family education;The second stage is the"The faith to,Universal love all the,And close kernel",Said is social education;The third stage is the"Do spare capacity,Is to learn",To say you the first two stages completed the words,Can go to study literature knowledge.We are now reversed,In the school to accept the education for many years later to accept social education,And family education??Often we sacrifice off.

　　家教是一种伦理的认同，也是一种规则的认同。家庭教育是让孩子从小就找到一种生命的自觉，一种建立在服从基础上的自觉。这种服从是伦理的服从，规则的服从，个人对集体的服从。为什么很多考上大学的高材生，却总是磕磕碰碰、与人有那么多冲突呢？到了念大学时你再告诉他们什么叫作“规则”，已经晚了。

Family education is a kind of ethical identity,Is also a kind of rules of the identity.Family education is to let the child will find a life consciousness,A set up on the basis of the subject consciousness.This kind of obedience is ethical obey,To obey the rules of,Personal collective obey.Why many admitted to university top student,But always stuttering/And there are so many conflict??The college when you tell what they called"rules",Already late.